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Thanks for giving such a detailed response! I know we don't talk too often, but you're always really insightful. I'm going to say from the getgo that I have little interest in engaging with queer theory now and probably never will. I don't come at these things with some sort of academic...

I was having a discussion about this with some online friends a few days back, thought it might be interesting to post it in here. My mates and I were talking about the word queer and my personal dislike for it, especially the way it's been watered down to mean just about anything by various...

I've been dealing really poorly with being physically isolated from my real-life friends. I'm very used to being online - I've been making friendships online since I was about 6 years old - but there really is no actual substitute for physical contact. I'm as touchy-feely as they come, and my...

I think it really depends on the type of people your parents are and what your relationship is like with them. I came out as bisexual to my mum at the ripe old age of 11 with a "formal" e-mail sent from a Barnes & Noble Nook at half past midnight. Are they the type where they'd prefer a...

as a kid if I could've replaced it I would've in a heartbeat but it's actually pretty raw and it's grown on me now

Actually, I do have something of actual worth to contribute for once! I am very happy to see people living authentically whenever I see people speak about it online, but there's this assumed solidarity to the way that I am LGBT and the way others are LGBT that just doesn't exist. I liken it to...

I did say I'd come back when the pot got stirred again, didn't I? That didn't take long! She'd been calling me her girlfriend this whole time and I was just too cowardly to ask. I have a girlfriend now!

It feels a little insulting to say this to someone who has openly reidentified and spoken about their journey. I am a vocal skeptic of transition in many cases and how transition is often used as a form of "easy way out" versus dealing with nonconformity and homophobia. To blame the individuals...

"Are aces LGBT" is a question/debate that is mostly useless and doesn't get anywhere, and is especially not going to get anywhere here. On another note: I can only speak for myself but I hate the split attraction model and think it's incredibly homophobic in that it allows people to rationalise...

Talking about my journey as a reidentified person at work has been well received by everyone I've told. Managed to find another new LGBT employee and we've been friendly since. Things have been going really well. Regardless of the pandemic pushing everything offline I've been trying to foster...

Hi all, I'm really keen to get speaking and chatting in French with anyone if I can :) Also keen if anyone has example beginner Chinese resources! I'm working with gameified tutorials at the moment but looking at textbooks and italki for the future.

As a general statement to anyone who might read, contentment and happiness on your own as an individual with or without a relationship should be the goal, not self-improvement for the sake of getting into a relationship. A partner isn't going to erase years of loneliness and the feelings that...

I'm going to ignore that I've encountered many a man and given them helpful advice on dating women without them perishing at the thought, and highlight this bit in particular: What should people judge whether or not to date someone else on if not merit? What else is there?

I genuinely cannot figure out if this is bait. How does someone make a post complaining about how high women's standards are without doing a little bit of self-reflection? The thing all those women would have in common is that they all did not like you, not that their standards are too high or...

Entitlement on this level is a red flag the size of the USSR no matter who it's coming from. Maybe the problem is less you being unattractive and more that your attitude towards dating and women is archaic and childish. Straight women do not have to be some arbitrary standard of "realistic" when...

To be a bit more serious, in place of the mediocre argument above I'll talk a bit more about masculinity and womanhood I have a testosterone appointment next week. This is something I've flip-flopped on for the last 4 or so years. It's the culmination of three years of waiting lists, clerical...

Historians hesitate to apply any modern conceptions of gender and sexuality to anyone retrospectively for good reason. We cannot retroactively apply our modern labels to people who lived in different times, who had different understandings of their sexuality and gender. Co-opting identities and...